What do you want to teach your children.

In his 2005 commencement speech at Stanford the late Steve Jobs talked about first discovering that he had cancer. 

He said "I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months 3."

This short excerpt firstly served as a reminder of why it is important to have a good daisy. When you wake up in the morning you never know what is going to happen. You might get diagnosed with a life threatening illness, someone you are close to may get in a terrible car crash or maybe you could be involved in one of those terrible tragedies you see on the news every day. If today was your last day, wouldn't your want your loved ones to know how much they mean to you? Wouldn't you want to know your loved ones know how much they mean to you. Leave the house on a good note, tell them you love them, put a little surprise in their lunchbox, do a good deed to make their morning a little easier.

The second thing was this got be thinking. My kids are young right now, if I only had a few months to pass the most important pieces of wisdom on to them, what would they be?

So, my children, this what I would want you to know.

The first piece of wisdom is that you can do anything. The biggest limiting factor is always whether or not you think you can do something. If you don't even think you can do something, you won't bother trying. If you think you can do something, you'll give it a go, you'll try harder and you'll keep trying. Henry Ford said "whether you think you can, or whether you think you cannot, you are right." Buddha said "he is able who thinks he is able." I once saw a great sign that said "success comes in cans, failure comes in cannots."  

The second piece of wisdom I want to share is you become what you think about. Whatever you think about repeatedly will eventually end up coming true. Good or bad! Be aware of what you are thinking about and if it isn't want you want to end up as - change it. This pearl of wisdom is applicable in so many ways. If you keep thinking you are good at something, even if its not immediately true, think it for long enough and it will be become true. If you keep thinking someone doesn't like you, it will affect your behavior and before you know it it will be true. These examples can come true in a month. If you have a big goal and you keep thinking about it day in day out for years, it too can come true. As you keep thinking about it you will start thinking of steps you can take towards your goal, even if they are small. These small steps will add up and given enough time you will realize your big goal. Its important to just have one goal. Its important that you are specific about what your goal is. Its important that you have a burning desire to achieve your goal - because it may take you years to achieve it. Its important you think about it every day. Write down the goal as if we were already true and read this everyday. Visualize yourself as if you had already achieved it. Buddha said "what we think, we become." Earl Nightingale said "we become what we think about all of the time."

The final piece of wisdom is that everything you do comes back to you. Every deed has a consequence. Do good things and good things will happen to you. Be nice to people and they will be nice to you. Work hard and you will get the results. Some people call this karma. Some people call this reciprocity. My take is that there are only 6 degrees of separation between people so if you upset 6 people you will get a reputation for being bad and people will treat you badly. No matter what the explanation I can tell you it is true.

So, what wisdom would you want to share with your children? Whatever it is, don't procrastinate in sharing it. You never know how long you have to share it with them.



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