How to make a good first impression There have been several different studies in to how long it takes to form a first impression of someone. What they have have found is that within seconds of meeting someone we decide whether we like them, whether we trust them, how competent they are, how dominant they are and how warm they are. This is called “thin slicing.” Thin slicing is drawing large conclusions from small amounts of data. Whilst on the surface it may seem as if we are applying our prejustices as with many things in psychology, it all goes back to the brains desire to keep us alive. These snap judgements are basically trying to answer the question “is the person a friend or a foe?” Put another way, “does this person want to kill me?” Society has evolved much faster than the brain and we don’t have to worry as much about being hit over the head with a club anymore. However we still use these judgements to decide whether we want to be friends with someone, whether we want to do business with a person, whether we want to hire someone and whether we want to help someone. So it is important to know how to make a good first impression. Fortunately these studies have found which traits we base these judgements on. Here are some scientifically proven ways to make a good first impression. Face Make eye contact when you first meet someone and periodically throughout the conversation. Studies on job interviews have found that candidates who make strong eye contact are judged higher offered jobs more often. Eye contact is viewed as a sign of self confidence and gives the impression of trust. Practice trying to notice the eye color of every person you meet. Once you have that you can move your eyes away to avoid being awkward. Smile. As you introduce yourself give them a warm smile. This tells the other person you are friendly and approachable. Smiling gives the signal you are happy to see them and that you are a “friend.” Posture Keep your arms in an open position and avoid crossing them. Mirroring what the other person is doing with their arms and hands is a way to use your posture to subconsciously build rapport. If they sit with both hands on the table, subtly copy them. Handshake So there you go, 3 science based ways to make a good first impression. |